Mediation centre helps unite divorced couples

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Sukhveer and Shobha Singh came to Delhi High Court in 2009 in a custody battle over their child after their decided to annul their nine-year-old marriage. A year later the couple is happily remarried, thanks to the court’s mediation.

Sukhveer and Shobha had married in 2000, but things started turning sour after Shobha’s family began interfering in their lives and created misunderstandings that began to overshadow their relationship. 

The couple had two children, but their misunderstandings continued to grow and they decided to end the relationship. They got divorced in 2009, and Sukhveer came to the court seeking the custody rights of one of the children.

However, the court decided to send them to the mediation centre to resolve the custody battle. 

‘When the case came to me I realized that the couple still wanted to continue their relationship, and it was just due to misunderstanding that they were forced to take this extreme step,’ said advocate Rekha Aggarwal, who was a mediator in their case. 

After 20 sittings with the couple, Aggarwal realized that it was the girl’s family that had created the rift as they did not like the boy and forced Shobha to go in for divorce. 

‘It was very difficult for me to handle Shobha as I wanted the girl to realise that her parents are not doing good for her,’ Aggarwal recalled to IANS. 

‘Finally, I was able to convince the couple and they got married again and are living happily with their two kids,’ said Aggarwal, adding that getting the couple together was the most delightful moment of her career. 

Like Aggarwal, hundreds of lawyers at the Delhi High Court Mediation Centre are working as mediators in different cases – ranging from matrimony to land disputes.

‘We receive 80 cases in a day on an average related to matrimonial, cheque bounce, land disputes and the like. Our battery of lawyers sit with both the parties, listen to them and arrive at a conclusion that suits both parties,’ said Sadhna Ramachandran, secretary of the Delhi High Court Mediation Centre.

Sixty percent of the cases relate to matrimonial disputes. 

The mediation centre manages to bring both parties to an amicable solution in maximum number of cases. 

‘The basic idea behind the mediation is to open the way of communication that was blocked after differences crept in. So here we try to open the channel of communication between the parties and ask them to sit across the table and talk,’ Ramachandran told IANS. 

Mediation is a forum where disputes can be heard and addressed by the parties concerned with the help of a neutral third party. It saves money as the disputes are promptly settled.

6 COMMENTS

  1. I was happily married for the last 4.8 years and have a daughter who will turn 2 years on 24 Sept.

    Things were going fine but my wife’s family began interfering in our lives and created misunderstandings that began to overshadow our relationship.

    Misunderstandings continued to grow and any wrong deed done by my wife was being overshadowed by my in-laws and she left me in June . My father was severely ill and he expired on 7 Aug . On hearing death of my father she came to the hospital and accompanied my family till our home and then stayed with us for 17 days untill “Satarvi”. Things were going fine and on 18th day she again started quarrelling saying false about me and my family and said that she was her just because my father died and she is still not decided to stay with me and continue the relation.
    At that time I wanted peace at my place but she continued to fight with my family members and my mother .

    Ultimated she called her chacha and chachi , her brother and her cousin who took her back to her place . No one sat with us to discuss the issue or to clear the misunderstanding but they simply said that my wife has decided to go back and hence we are here to take her back .

    She took all her belongings on that day along with her. One of my uncle tried to contact her chacha yesterday but they refused to sit together to get to any resolution and donot want to discuss anything about this .

    I know my wife was not like this but continued involvement of my in-laws and favouring all the things done by her weather it be right or wrong made her do whatever she wanted . Over that my in-laws always supported her that we are always there by your side whatever decision you take .No one even attempted to talk to me about any thing as if they really wanted to spoil our relation . No one as an elder came to me to sit with us to make us understand.

    Now they have decided to end the relationship.
    I still want to continue our relationship, but no one is there to make my wife understand and realise that her parents and relatives are not doing good for her.Someone is taking advantage of her and making her mind to do all these things.

    I realy want to go for a Mediation and get the things resolved.When requested to go for mediation/ councellor to get this things sorted out with my wife ,my in-laws are simply denying to get this done.

    Please suggest.

  2. Dear sir,
    The covered aspects were useful and ahall improve on including more cases.
    V C Malarmannan

  3. Hi,

    Due to prolonged illness and difficulty at workplace I left my IT company in 4 days after resignation. I asked for the Reliveing Letter before my notice Period which is of 90 days. As I did not turn up for work, I was sent a reminder letter for rejoining the service. On the 14th day I received my termination Letter.

    However since then every month on the 1st of each month I am getting the salary.
    I have shifted to other company and still the Salary account of the previous company is in operation.

    They had sent a letter which says that “They will be calling me for completing the full and final.” They havent called me yet for it since 6 months.

    I need to know whether this has been deliberately done by my employer to hand me a legal notice of fraud and cheating
    OR
    Whether they have the right to ask this money from me. if yes then the lumpsum amount that needs to be paid is to huge to be paid at one go. So can I set condition to pay the amount in installments just like they deposited in Installment.

    This has been due to the problem with their accounting software hence can they hold me responsible for cheating or some case like hiding the facts?

    I am in need of desperate help and hence I have no idea of any laws related to such rare issues.

    Please help me.

    Regards,
    V Ferns

  4. First SC/ST then OBC and now women reservation. This is sad for democracy.A person (in this case a Man) who has worked for his constituency throughout life will suddenly find that he is not allowed to contest election from that constituency because it is reserved for women. This is really ridiculous in democracy and is definitely biased against men. Shortcuts are not always good. If women want to come to parliament then they should fight in a democratic way with men.

  5. Dear Sir/madam, I am a Govt. employee and needs to give property transactions by me, my dependent. Whenever such transaction takes place, one need to inform within stipulated time period.

    last year, my father-in-law gifted some property to my wife. As I was not aware of this gift , the same i didn’t furnish in my statement.

    I wish to specify this pproperty againist my wife’s name in the next statement.

    Whether it is possible to chnage the date of gift . I mean whether my father-in-law ‘gift again’ the same property ( be canceliing ear;lier and gift again). So that the new gift date I can furnish without any worry.

    Thanking you.

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